Acceptance
- Sarah E. Blair
- Nov 22, 2017
- 3 min read
Your happiness starts when you can accept and love yourself the way you are.
When we hurt, we ask the question WHY? There is not always a simple answer to why we are in pain. So, we start to point the blame on others. We start to get angry at the world around us and we start to hate ourselves. It is a lot easier to hate ourselves than to love ourselves. If I asked you to write ten things you hated about yourself I bet, you could fill that list out in a matter of minutes. If I asked you to write ten things you LOVED about yourself, it would take you longer. Why is this?
It is a lot easier to point blame on other things, people and ourselves, than to accept reality. Don’t live in the shadows. Forgive what is out of your control and start accepting the new possibilities.
What have you done wrong? Why are you so hard on yourself? You did nothing wrong. We all have our own struggles. We can choose to let our struggles control us or we can rise above them.
Accept what is. Let go what was. Believe what will be. ~Unknown
Maybe you were born with a chronic illness. Maybe you are in a great deal of physical pain. Maybe you are in emotional pain. Perhaps you are going through some dark times. It will be OK. I promise. If you are trying and not giving up on yourself; things will work out.
Right now, you might be sad, angry, afraid or anxious. Your life has been disrupted.
It is only natural to feel like this.
You may have had bad luck with your doctors in the past. Maybe you where bullied in school. Perhaps your family just seems to not get your struggle. The truth is, NO ONE CAN FEEL WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. Living with chronic pain, illness, depression and emotional pain, does not mean you are doomed for a life in a medicated coma. It doesn’t mean you are going to be sad forever. It does not mean that nobody cares. It means you must learn to not let your pain control you. You must not live in fear. You must let go and accept that you might have to learn to live with this. There is not always a simple fix. Sometimes there isn't cure. You still have a choice. It is still your life to live. You can choose to live life to thrive or live life to only survive. Accept that you are sick or hurting. Let go of every person you felt questioned your pain.
Tell yourself:
I do not need to justify this pain. I feel it and that is all that matters.
I am letting go of this anger. I do not need to put my life on hold for pain.
I am in control of my life. I am in control of my choices.
I will not let this pain define who I am.
Accept yourself for who you are, the way you are. Love yourself. Start putting your needs first. If you are not taking care of yourself then you cannot be there for those you care about the most. If you are not respecting yourself, then you cannot expect anyone to respect you the way you deserve. If you do not LOVE yourself, then you will not be loved back the way you want to be.
The moment you accept what troubles you have been given, the door will open. ~Rumi
Accept that you are in pain and find your freedom. Open the door to new opportunities. The past is the past, let it go. Begin now. Accept now and try tomorrow.
Once you find acceptance of yourself, you can be free to start your new life. Once you accept you are ill, you can be free to finding the best course of treatment. Chronic pain, doesn’t just go away but it can be lived with and done so with a good quality of life.
Emotional pain ends once you find your inner peace. The choice to start is yours.
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